Parents - allies or opponents

Parents - allies or opponents.

Well, again, I took the pen, or rather the keyboard of my computer.

Today I want to talk about differences in the education of children. Why are some families obedient, well-mannered and quiet, and in others -devilyou can go crazy. What mistakes do we make? What are the differences between father's and mother's education? Why are there such inconsistencies in the rules of education?
I have long understood that there are no truisms, and that sometimes in life you need to adapt and find compromises, and that from the side of the error is much more visible.

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For example, that it is impossible to spank children, even simple slaps can be offensive and remain in memory forever.

Or that, without giving children a minimum of freedom, they become dependent and this negatively affect their own initiative.

But returning to the topic of inconsistencies, I want to touch on the topic that many mothers face. Why many dads are completely inconsistent in their requirements for children and can not establish rules with which children live much easier. Children need rules to feel confident.

After all, even an adult, getting into an unfamiliar place prefers to know and adhere to the rules that are accepted in this institution. So are the children, what can be done, what is impossible, what is useful, what is not. Of course, we adapt to the established rules much faster than the children, who will test the established limits all the time and this is probably the most difficult thing to bring up.

Perhaps it is because of this that the methods of educating men differ; they cannot repeat the same thing many times. “I have already repeated it 10 times,” they say. Yes, of course, but with children it is necessary to repeat not 10 times, but 1000 times. They check limits every time you are tired, when you are fun, when you are sick. Such is the harsh reality of raising children.

Many will say that many rules will make a child reticent or insecure, but we are not talking about suppression of the person, but there are elementary rules of life in society that the child will have to accept in the future.

For example, a situation that can occur in any family. Mom asks the child to remove his bag, the child kicks the bag with his foot and screams at mom, accusing her of all mortal sins. At the moment, he runs angerangryand that's fine.After the child calms down, the father must explain to him that it is impossible to shout at mom and cannot say words that can hurt a lot. And that when mom asks to do something, you need to do it whenever possible. And that the child has the right to anger, but then he must admit his mistakes and apologize for them. This is the correct reaction of the parents ... However, it often happens the other way round, the papa acts not as the mother’s protector, but as the protector against the mother. But respect for the mother must first come from the father and vice versa.

In such situations, it is very difficult to control the behavior of the child. Moreover, children are barometers of family happiness. If you have understanding problems in your family, your barometer will show all the time during a storm.

Love each other, respect each other and you will avoid any storms.

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  • Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

    Parents - allies or opponents

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