The dialogue about happiness has not changed much in the last 3,000 years, starting from ancient Greek and Roman times.
But people pretend that everything has changed and that today there are more unhappy people than ever before. And all because we have become less connected with each other.
You see this phrase everywhere. “Technology makes people feel lonely and depressed!”
I agree that technology has changed, but human nature is not. People are unhappy, lonely and sad since the dawn of modern civilization. We still ask ourselves questions such as:
Do I like my job?
Does my partner make me happy?
How much money do I need for happiness?
We think about it over the centuries. And if you have a similar mindset, I can tell you that this is bad.
A common notion of happiness implies that other things or people should make us happy. Have you ever thought about it?
Why do we believe that something should always make us happy?
I think this is the crux of the problem with happiness.Why do we continue to associate happiness with such external things as career, love and money?
When are you happy?
When do you have a job that you love? Good relationship with a partner? A lot of money?
But what about those times when your work bothers you? Or when your relationship becomes unbearable? Or when there is not enough money for anything?
I wrote that I strive to pursue utility, not happiness. When you do something useful, you feel happy.
Many people responded to this idea. Moreover, it raises an important question.
"As I understand that I am happy?"
This is a question that can only be asked when you think about this concept at a deeper level. You see, most of us never think about measuring happiness. Or we assume that we know how to do it.
Yes, we can define our career, money, relationships, and health goals — and we make these things measurable.
However, we cannot measure one thing that makes all these things meaningful: our own happiness.
Never rely on the outside in terms of happiness
This is my only measure of happiness.I ask myself: “Do I hope that something or someone will make me happy?”
I want my answer to be "No." Let me explain.
I love my job, but it does not make me happy.
I love my family, but it does not make me happy.
I love my soul mate, but she does not make me happy.
I'm just happy.
Life is too short to waste. We cannot entrust our happiness to other people.
Happiness is a state of mind. It is completely under your control. In the same way that you can decide to spend your time well, you are able to decide whether you are happy or not.
"But in my life there is nothing that would make me happy."
Again! You are trapped in the old way of thinking. It is easy to blame your work, spouse, family, or even the world for your misfortune.
I constantly meet people who say that the world is evil. Yes, bad things happen to people. And yes, some people are angry. I'm not going to pretend that nothing like this is happening.
But is this under your control? Not. So don't let other things make you miserable. It's time to stop being cynical.
Remember: you don't need a reason to be happy.All essence in one sentence. But easier said than done.
But all you need is to be happy.
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