What if all the good things that even impress you in a new elect are actually a sign that he is a tyrant who is not afraid to raise a hand on a woman?
You are so in love. He wants to be with you every day. He writes you "Good morning, beautiful," it seems to be showing such sincere interest. So cute when he is jealous of everyone he meets. And still worried that you can change him. And even hinted at the wedding.
His only drawback: he considers your friends a bad company. He prefers to be only with you together, and not in the company of relatives or friends. He says he only needs you.
If you have it all, then perhaps this is no reason to rejoice. Because psychologists say this is the first sign of a tyrant and a manipulator. Here are some of its distinguishing features:
1. He is jealous of you family members, friends, and even the time you spend with others.
Everything can begin with the assumption that your friends have a bad influence on you, or that he is uncomfortable with your relatives. Requests to spend less time with friends and family may seem innocent, but over time the tyrant will try to completely isolate his victim.
2He watches your every step.
At first it is even pleasant that he is constantly in touch, wondering what you are doing, where and with whom. He may say that he is bored. And then he starts compulsively advising you on how best to spend your time, complain when you are not too long, when you do not immediately respond to his messages. In the end, he begins to follow you.
If he has low self-esteem, he may suspect you of treason, may even hack your pages, check the phone.
3. He watches every penny spent.
At first he simply advises how it would be better to spend the money. So that he does not worry, you can allow him to fully manage your finances. But in the end, some tyrants may even force their victims to give up work in order to fully depend on it in material terms.
4. He tells you how to dress and look.
At first it all starts with the fact that he simply asks you to wear something definite, or says that you are better off without makeup. Then he starts complaining that your clothes attract other men. He can play the victim, confusing you, making you feel guilty.If you completely changed your style for his sake, this is an alarming sign.
5. He rushes you to the wedding.
The desire to quickly start the wedding from a man seems like a fantasy and will please almost every woman, but that is why it should be alerted. Does he want a wedding because he really loves you and considers him his only one, or because he is not sure of himself and wants more power over you? The one who truly loves you will not rush you and wait until you are ready.
True love is not trying to control you. True love trusts and wants the best for you, even if your happiness implies separation. True love is not selfish. It frees and allows us to be the best.