1. You think that everything happens on purpose.
Some kind of driver sprayed you. A friend specifically never picks up the phone the first time. Your colleague specifically went to dinner without you. Everyone can always find the reason why it is worth offended by someone. To do this, you simply need to attribute evil intentions to completely innocent people. You take it all too seriously.
Happy people don't do that. They do not take everything on a personal account.
2. You are the star of your movie.
You believe the world revolves around you. In the end, you were at the center of every event that happened to you.
You are the star of your movie. You write the script. You know how you want action to unfold.
But, unfortunately, you forget to give your script to the rest. As a result, people do not know what role they should play in your life. And when they act not according to your plan, do not fall in love with you or do not give you a promotion for work, your film spoils.
Throw the script. Let someone else be a star for a while.Greet new characters and new plot twists.
3. You think that everything will end badly.
Whatever starts, I always thought that this would not end with anything good. And then I was pleasantly surprised when the result was much better. My mind always aggravated everything, even when there was no reason for it. Sore throat - everything, I have cancer. I can not find a credit card - everything, it was stolen by a gang of fraudsters who have already withdrawn all my money.
But the negative really interferes with happiness.
4. You have unrealistic and unspoken expectations.
Among the many shortcomings of your loved ones is the harsh reality that they cannot read your thoughts and foresee whims.
Your boyfriend has forgotten that you have 6 months from the date of the first date? A friend forgot to ask what answered you that handsome from the gym?
Unjustified expectations are the root of all people's misfortunes. Minimize expectations, maximize joy.
5. You are waiting for signs of fate.
So you can wait forever or misinterpret what you take as signs. I do not want to belittle the influence of fate, but still it is better to help her and do what you want, without waiting for guidance from above.
6. You do not risk.
Every time you are offered something, for which you need to take a risk, agree. Most often you will lose, but in the end you will be glad that you have tried and you will not think: “What would have happened if ...”.
7. You constantly compare your life with others.
Someone has a better car. Someone more magnificent wedding. Someone richer. Someone more beautiful.
Enough. Remember, as Roosevelt said: "Comparison is a thief of joy."
8. You let other people steal from you.
If you had a million dollars under the mattress, you would constantly check to see if he was there, and would take care of him like the apple of an eye. But you have something more important than money - time. But you do nothing to protect him. You even willingly give it to: selfish people, negative, talkers and insolent. Take care of your time. Give it only to those who deserve.
9. You can not let go.
It is heavier. But you have to work on your happiness. You need to free your mind from too much. Maybe you need to forgive someone? Maybe you need to finally end up with a bad relationship? Maybe it's time to accept parting?
Life is full of losses, but real happiness cannot be without them. It helps us to appreciate and protect what we have and what is really important. It helps grow.
10. You do not give away.
One way to survive a loss is to dissolve into good deeds.Try yourself in volunteering. Get involved in life. Even just tell someone a good word. Praise someone. Visit the one who is alone. Stop focusing on yourself.
There are two types of people in the world: those who give and those who take. The first are happier. The second are pathetic.